• Jane

Do you know what colour you are?

Knowing your colour could be the key to unlocking greater relationships

What message is your social style sending out? After identifying your dominant social style, (Analytical - Blue, Driver - Red, Amiable - Green, Expressive - Yellow) you may begin to understand what types of messages which you are sending out and also how they could be interpreted by others. Remember this. There is no bad style, just a failure or even a resistance to be flexible. If you'd like your message to be well received, talk in the language of your audience. No matter how small that it seems or feels great to you, if it does not sound or feel great to them.

How does social style affect your relationships? The negative impact of non or conflicting social styles could be both subtly and overtly cumulative. If you are often at odds with others or you constantly feel misunderstood, rapport has small opportunity to grow. It would be clever that you take the early initiative of tuning into verbal and non verbal hints of their social style. Again, this is not a debate on changing the behaviour of others, it is on you learning to become cognisant and, then, to be socially versatile.

How may you make your social style more versatile? Versatility truly is the key. Those who've learned to control their behavioural personal tastes or social style so as to allow their brand to establish rapport with a differing style are able to create, grow and preserve beneficial interpersonal relationships. The expressive and also the driver for instance might begin with listening and watching more and controlling less. For the amiable and the analytical it might help them to share in the excitement or the sense of urgency of the driver or the expressive'. Social flexibility is the indisputable key to the success of all relationships.

So the ability to not only have someones social style in mind but to have a reminder of that style will help individuals and in turn teams build stronger relationships.